all you do is ask her if she been waking up wet or dry.she will tell you.you are her B/F.if she says dry tell her to try and sleep without the pull ups.if she says wet tell her you are there for her.

Josiah, your gf's wetting the bed almost definitely has something to do with the death of her parents. You definitely need to inform your parents of what's happening as your gf needs some help in dealing with her parent's death. What you can do is talk to her again and find out why she doesn't want your parents to know. It's likely that she is afraid of your parents reaction, or just plain embarrassed. What's happening to her, if it's because of her parent's death, is not at all uncommon, especially in kids who were bedwetters before. It's possible that unless she is very small, that GN's won't be enough for her as she may wet more than GN's can hold. This is another reason for your parents to know as they can help with getting what she needs in terms of protection. If GN's aren't enough, check out, or have one of your parents check out the following:

http://northshorecare.com/pullons-tranquility.html

http://northshorecare.com/atn1.html

http://northshorecare.com/slimline1.html

The ATN garments come in both brief (diaper) and pull on, and for each size the capacity is the same. Unlike the other adult products, these go all the way down to a "junior" size then XS, S, M, L, and XL. This almost guarantees that if she is a petite person, she'll still be able to find something to fit in either style. You might want to point out to her that it's only a matter of time until your parents are likely to figure it out, Hey, if nothing else, perhaps you can find discreet ways to drop hints to your parents without her knowing until after. The other issue here is that if you both are losing sleep because of her wetting, and the clean up, that's going to affect your ability to function during the day, and may affect your grades as well as other activities like sports etc.. Check this search out. Even if neither of you read any of the articles, it will definitely show that what's happening to her is not at all uncommon, even in kids who weren't bedwetters previously.

http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&source=hp&fkt=4125&fsdt=17203&q=psych+trauma+and+bedwetting&rlz=1R2GGLL_en&aq=f&oq=&aqi=


Good luck to both of you, and great job being a friend to her. BTW, your parent's are probably wise to keep you two separate in terms of bedroom location. You're both very young, and she is very vulnerable and it's easy to confuse the warmth of friendship and sympathy, and vulnerability with feelings of attraction between you. In other words, you may miss the signals that would have you thinking thrice before getting super close with each other, and do something that you may regret later. My sister knew someone whom she met when they were very young (the parents knew each other from a work and childcare standpoint). Later they got together (not too long after high school) and eventually got married. They have two kids who are now grown adults and are still married more than 30 years later. (I'm telling you that as it's similar to your story about you two knowing each other as kids.)

You're welcome, I hope you'll fill us in on what's happened. Something to consider as well, is that her letting you parents know, and wearing protection, can also help lessen the stress during this time. It's also important that she understand that this is a very normal response to the situation, and that she shouldn't be embarrassed or upset about it. Remember that you both are at an age where your emotions are on a roller coaster, and for her at least, the lows are going to be even lower. This can be compounded by lack of sleep. Once again, great job on being a friend. Hang tough as she will likely have periods of being really testy as well.

Try again with her. Just let her know that you are just talking with her. Let her know that there's absolutely no reason to be embarrassed about what's happening. If she keeps on like this, it's likely that it will only be a matter of time before someone else figures out what's happening, either from the smell of urine, an increasing water or electric bill, or an unusual disappearance of laundry soap. The other big thing here is that if she's getting up either during the night, or early in the morning to wash clothing and bedding, it's only going to add to the difficulties that she's having now. It's very hard to think clearly when you aren't getting enough sleep. It's possible that part of the reason she is having such a strong reaction now, is that she is sleep deprived. The other benefit to your parent's knowing is that they can get the protection for her. Check this out:

http://northshorecare.com/pullons-tranquility.html

http://northshorecare.com/atn1.html

http://northshorecare.com/slimline1.html

What she wants are the ATN garments. There are briefs (diapers), and pull ons, and both styles have the same capacity for any given size. You're not likely going to be able to purchase items on line unless you have a credit card. There's another possibility as well. You could let your mom know about it, have her get some, and either of you leave them in her room for her to find. Perhaps a simple note or card could help as well. If done in this way, she might see that it's no big deal, and that you're parents are cool about it. Perhaps the note/card could be from your mom indicating to her that if she wants to talk, your mom is there for her, and just leave it at that. Just a thought.

I hope that works. I feel the need to repeat one thing, and that's to let you know how awesome you are, and you're sensitivity, and compassion with this issue. Be proud of yourself. Just one favor, give her a great big hug from an anonymous "friend". Please let us know how it works out.

well despite my girlfriend's opposition, i told my mom. she was very cool about it and when i told her the idea about the note she liked it a lot and wrote her a note. there's a slight problem though. my mom remembers that when my girlfriend previously wore protection for wetting (we don't know for sure if it was goodnights or what) she used to get some sort of rash. my mom vaguely remembers talking to her mom about it. we don't know if she has sensitive skin or if it's some sort of reaction? does anyone have any information on this? she is a competitive dancer and if she has some sort of irritation it has to be very uncomfortable for her when she dances over 16 hours a week.

Slice is absolutely right. A problem shared is a problem halved.